Leadership Video
The Three-Day Rule
Whenever you are faced with a decision or something problematic in your relationships, do not respond for three days.
Bob Lonac Have you ever taken time to respond to something difficult? If you haven't — try the 3-day rule. You'll be shocked at how much better you handle things.
Inspired by Fred Stabbert
When I became the CEO and President of CRISTA, God gave me a great gift. At the same time I started this job, Fred Stabbert was appointed as the Chairman of the Board. I quickly discovered that Fred was committed to my success and was a man of great wisdom. We met or talked on the phone almost every week for the three years he remained Chairman.
He also discovered that I had the tendency to be impulsive and make quick decisions. Often this worked out ok, but it also could really backfire on me and cause some harm to the organization.
One day, after I had been in a difficult conversation in a board meeting, Fred followed up on the instance in our phone call. “Bob, do you know the ‘Three Day Rule’?” I did not. But I learned it and immediately knew it was for me.
I put it into practice right away. I made a sign and taped it to the inside of my desk drawer so I could see it every time I opened the drawer.
The ‘Three-Day Rule’ works for improving relationships with your significant other, children, friends, and at work. It helps you make better decisions in your personal and professional life.
In short, the ‘Three-Day Rule’ helps all aspects of your life!
So here is the ‘Three Day Rule.’ It is simple:
Day One
Something happens. You are confronted with a decision that needs to be made. You have a challenging conversation with someone. You hear something about someone or something and you are eager to react. You are presented with a problem to solve. You like solving problems.
But, you say to yourself, “I am invoking the ‘Three Day Rule’!” And, you decide to wait to react.
Day Two
You wait. (This can be hard.) During this time, you think, pray, write, ask for advice from those you trust.
Day Three
Things will look different to you. You may not take any actions, but your emotions will have settled down. You might have learned there are two sides to every story. Or, God may have spoken to you.
I can not remember being sorry when I invoked the ‘Three Day Rule.’ And there are times I didn’t when I most definitely wish I had.
It is simple, straightforward, and powerful. You won’t know until you try it.
